Every so often someone sends me a picture of Garrett that I don't have. It happened today! What a great birthday gift! My Aunt Ellen sent me a couple pictures of myself and Garrett at My Aunt Julie's house. I'm assuming it was a Jones party because that's where we usually have Jones parties! I am really grateful for the pictures I have of me and Garrett together. It makes me remember all the really great times we had together. He was my little buddy that did everything with me. Thanks, Ellen! You really made my day!
Yesterday we had a little party remembering him. It was simple-frosting cupcakes and swimming with friends-but it's one of the traditions we have that I cherish. So glad we have friends who love to remember him with us!
Wow...9 years old. A big birthday. Each year I like to try and imagine the kinds of things he would have been doing and how our life would be different if he were still with us.
Fourth grade. Probably the same school as Dallin and most likely the same class! (Dallin is in a multi-grade level classroom 4-6) They would have LOVED being in class together. They probably would have spent a lot of time getting into trouble together. I wonder if they would be best friends, or if there would be some sibling rivalry? I'm thinking best friends...with a little competition.
Big brother to Maura. He was always so good to her. He loved entertaining her when she was so little. He would make funny faces, show her toys, do silly dances, and was happy to help me keep her happy. I would love to have him around now to play with Maura and help keep her happy! Many an afternoon I have wished for a playmate for her. He would have been perfect!
Rough and tumble, or sweet and quiet. Hmmm, hard one to predict. He was such a happy guy, sweet spirited and kind and was also a BOY by any definition of that word. Balls, trucks, climbing trees, playing in the mud. I'm assuming he would have followed anything his big brother is into: airsoft, bb guns, video games, swimming, friends, and all the stuff that is the best part of being a boy. So I'm thinking not as rough as Dallin and with a little sweet side.
What kind of student would he be? He gravitated to books and coloring more than Dallin ever did at a young age. I think he would have enjoyed school and it would have come easily for him. I remember him LOVING his preschool program and all that came with it. Coloring, painting, projects, singing, reading stories, meeting friends.
He would have been a super friendly guy. I remember him not being afraid to meet new people and even saying "hi" to complete strangers we would pass in the grocery store. He would have been a real social kid.
Our lives sure would be different were he still with us, but the one thing I do know is that even though we are not together now there will be a time when we will be reunited and those relationships we had will continue eternally. I look forward to that day.
We've been thinking about what to do to celebrate and remember. He would have been 8 years old this year!
Maura, naturally, thinks we should get a bunny because when you turn 8 you get baptized and you get a bunny.
Dallin wants to gather some friends and have a marsh-mallow gun fight.
They both agree on the cake and ice cream part of a celebration.
I have a movie my sister made of Garrett. I have never watched it.
It's been sitting in a little box with other things that belong to Garrett. Pictures, a favorite shirt, pieces of his favorite blanket, school work, trophies, and so forth. It's been nagging at me for a long time. I've always felt guilty that I haven't watched it.
She gave it to me right after Garrett died. I think it is a montage of pictures with music. I think we are going to watch it. It's been three years. I can do this. I know I'm going to cry and I'm okay with that. I'm actually pretty excited. I've thought about watching it several times and I've decided I'm going to wait until his birthday.
Now all we have to do is decide on what kind of cake to make...